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'He asked for a plus two because he's a swinger right now and wanted to bring them both' - Newlyweds share their stories of 'nightmare' wedding guests

Newlyweds share their 'nightmare' stories of their most problematic wedding guests

We've all heard of the wedding guest who turned up with an undeclared plus one, or the one who assumed their kids were invited, or the one who had one too many and got a little too flirty with the chief bridesmaid.

Weddings are littered with stories of problem guests, in fact it's unusual to get through one without having some sort of annoyance with RSVPs, table plans or just general unhelpful behaviour in the lead up to and on the big day.

But these 'problem guest' anecdotes really do take the wedding cake.

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When one recently married Reddit user took to the forum to share her 'nightmare' wedding story of an uninvited guests who in turn brought along an undeclared plus one, who brought their toddler to the reception before getting too drunk to actually mind the child, fellow forum posters were quick to add their tales of wedding guests with the worst etiquette form.

So who gets the vote as the most ill mannered guest on the list of terrible testimonies?

Is it the 'freegan' who demanded a vegan meal only to spend the evening chowing down on a chicken and bacon wrap? The guy who asked for a 'plus two' as he was 'a swinger right now'? The guest who contacted all the wedding vendors behind the couple's back to change their dinner menu? The one who wore a white sequin evening dress to a morning ceremony? Or the drunk family friend who wouldn't leave the bride's boss alone?

Here are some of the most scandalous stories of wedding guests woes shared by posters.

"He then proceeds to allow his tweens to EAT OUR CAKE before the ceremony was even started, let alone the reception"

"My husband's uncle that I'd never met showed up with his family an hour before our outdoor wedding was scheduled while I was setting up and the first thing he says to me is, "who the hell are you?" He then proceeds to allow his tweens to EAT OUR CAKE before the ceremony was even started, let alone the reception. And he blamed my dad, saying that he told them that they could do it, essentially calling my dad a liar."

"She tells me she had known [she was coming to the wedding] for three weeks but decided that she wanted to surprise everyone."

"My SIL said she couldn't make it to the wedding. No big deal. She annoyed me and I could care less if she was there. Five minutes before I walk down the aisle, guess who forces their way into the "secret room" I'm hiding in? Oh it's SIL telling "Surprise!" Uh... Wtf? I ask her "Oh.. When did you know you were coming?" she tells me she had known for three weeks but decided that she wanted to surprise everyone. "I hope we have space for you" I said knowing that I my venue was very strict on guest count. "You better" is how she replied. And I must have looked ready to kill her because my coordinator ushered her quickly out and brought me a shot."

"He comes to my parents house on the day of the wedding to let me know his plus 1 is now going to be a different girl"

"I had a neighbor/family friend who my parents invited to the wedding kind of offhandedly. Not a big deal, but not someone I would have planned to invite. Then he RSVPs with a plus 1. Again, a little frustrating but I'm rolling with it. Then he comes over to my parents house on the day of the wedding (where we are getting dressed) to let me (the bride, not the planner or anyone else) know his plus 1 is now going to be a different girl. At this point, we passed eye rolling and got into wtf territory. The new date brings a toddler. Who takes someone else's seat at dinner. The kid gets food all over herself, so mom takes her clothes off to let a naked toddler run around the reception. Of course both the guy and his plus one get trashed and everyone else is left babysitting an unmonitored toddler who is pumped full of soda and cake."

"She's basically demanding to know why she wasn't put at the Roosevelt table"

"At the end of the night, as everyone is saying their goodbyes, my new wife is approached by one of her mother's friends. She's basically demanding to know why she wasn't put at the Roosevelt table. "You know I love FDR! Why wasn't I at the Roosevelt table? Why was I at this other table? A perfectly lovely evening, and this rude [expletive] had to create a lasting memory by essentially complaining about her table number."

"She will forever be remembered by a lot of my guests"

"We had a family friend show up to the wedding drunk... she is apparently known to let loose on vacation but it was news to me. I hasn't seen this couple in at least 10 years. She was a happy and talkative drunk at least! The part that really bothered me though is she spent the whole reception cornering my single boss whole her husband mingled separately! I keep sending my dad over to save my boss since this was his friend, not mine. She will forever be remembered by a lot of my guests!"

"He also asked for a plus two because he's a swinger right now and wanted to bring them both"

"We had quite a few! The worst/most laughable one was The "vegan" who kept on about having a vegan meal at our wedding, we said yes then he sat at a funeral munching on a chicken and bacon wrap in front of my husband. He's a "freegan" and will happily eat meat and dairy if it's going to waste. We had a hot buffet and wasn't about to go making an exception for his flaky beliefs when we weren't doing individual meals. He came up to me at the wedding and asked what vegan food was there and I told him that all the food was going to waste so he can help himself! He gave me a stinking look before tucking into a plate full of meat. He also asked for a plus two because he's a swinger right now and wanted to bring them both. I would've happily ordered him a vegan meal if he was actually vegan! He's off his trolley.

"Truthfully, it was harassment."

"It took me by surprise when both my venue person and my caterer asked me to address the guest that kept calling them. Truthfully, it was harassment. She would leave messages and then call again thinking she was being ignored. She was a cousin on my husband's side and took it upon herself to call the venue and get the caterer info from the venue person without making any mention of it to me. It got bad when she chided the caterer for not having everything gluten free on the menu. We had shrimp and grits to cater to people who didn't eat pork and people who were gluten intolerant and she said rudely declared "I don't like shrimp and grits." She demanded "hospitality" and suggested to my mother (whom she called later after unsuccessfully altering our menu) essentially that we were a bunch of dumb southern hicks who didn't understand what celiac disease was. We weren't being accommodating, we didn't get how hard it was to be gluten intolerant etc etc. Y'all I'm the kind of person that wouldn't mind if she brought her own salad in a cooler to the reception, seriously. My mom rarely gets mad and was so upset by the notion of lacking hospitality. When we found out that she had contacted our vendors behind our backs... oh my gosh we were livid."

"She locked herself in the bathroom"

"One of the guys was dating this complete whackjob at the time.. Everything had to be about her all the time. Naturally, she selected a dress like this to wear to the wedding, but in white sequins. To a ten a.m. wedding. She was not the bride. She also didn't really have a physique that would make this particular dress complimentary, and had a habit of wearing things that were quite a bit too small. Luckily, she did not actually attend because she got drunk and then got into a screaming match with her boyfriend and locked herself in the bathroom. They were going to be late to the courthouse appointment, so they left her behind."

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