The Vow

What really happens when you leave someone at the altar

Sometimes, weddings aren't all they're cracked up to be - especially when it's your own.

Runaway brides and grooms took to Reddit to reveal their reasons for leaving their partner at the aisle and what happened to their lives after.

User trjones1 said shared a story about a groom-to-be avoiding a "toxic person", saying: 'A guy I knew did this. He was a nice, laid back guy marrying a toxic person.


"His friends had been telling him to break it off from the beginning. They had a final intervention for him the morning of the wedding and they finally convinced him to just leave.

"He showed up at this festival I was at during what was supposed to be his wedding. I saw him and said 'Hey man, aren't you getting married today?' and he had this kind of far away look and said 'Yeah, that's not happening anymore.'"

Another groom made a break for it while at the top of the aisle after expressing doubts about the impending nuptials.

DarkOmen597 shared: "A buddy of ours was going to marry this girl he had known for a few years. He was expressing doubt but racked it up to being nervous about marriage.

"The night before he broke down crying and thought he was making a mistake. We offered support and told him it would be ok. We said that if he didn't want to do it he didn't have to but we encouraged him to go through with it.

"Day of the wedding and everything is happening. The wedding has started and he is at the altar waiting. My buddy is sweating like a mad man. My other friends and I notice and think he is about to pass out. Then it happens.

"The groom starts rocking back and forth. He looks like he is about to faint and he slowly starts side shuffling. My buddies look at each other and just know what is about to happen. The groom turns to his right and starts heading to the side door."

Katrilli described her own experience with thanks to the help of his ex in the days running up to their wedding.

"I got left at the altar. He had spent the previous day spending a lot of time with his ex instead of helping me set up. I yelled at him about it because he was late and hadn't helped at all. He said he didn't want to get married because spending time with his ex made him realize I wasn't as fun as she was because I was uncomfortable with him doing drugs," she wrote.

"Kicked him out and still had the party. I told him to use that time to go home and pack up all his shit. He did.

Another told a dramatic story in which her ex was having a secret affair and left her before their big day, leaving her to foot the entire bill and explain to all the guests what happened.

"Not quite at the altar, but I was left several weeks before my wedding. And by left, I mean my fiance insisted he was stressed out with work and needed some time... when in reality he wanted to move his new, pregnant girlfriend into our house while I was out of town. SO. The initial aftermath was indescribable, frankly - about 85% of our wedding was set up - calling and explaining this to vendors was a total blast. I lived in and was getting married in the South, so if I never hear "oh bless your heart" again, it'll be too soon," she explained.

"Not to mention the crippling depression I fell into and loss of a whole life I had built with someone I had trusted. I didn't leave my parent's house for over a month afterward. I also had to deal with my family AND his, and our friends - since he felt no reason to explain this to his side or anyone else, and just assumed I'd do it or they'd figure it out (?).

"To say it was a f**king disaster is a huge understatement. I'm still recovering (mostly financially), but therapy has done wonders. My ex has a lot of mental issues and hid them well, and I've gotten to a place where I know I'm better off and dodged a huge bullet. I also recently started seeing a man who makes my heart race when he walks into a room. It's a beautiful thing."